The world is a kind of spiritual kindergarten where millions of bewildered infants are trying to spell “God” with the wrong blocks. – Edwin Arlington Robinson
I can no longer say that I am a religious man. I am a spiritual man, with religion in my spirit, but I am not a regular participant in organized religion.
I haven’t fancied being a part of any large organized groups in general, since high school. Therefore, part of my reason for not being religious is that I do not like to be a part of large groups.
Being a religious man is like saying that you are an outdoorsman, a romantic man, or even a party man. The driving words before ‘man’ implies regularly participating in that specific sort of activity, outdoor sports, romance, and partying, respectively.
I am not a religious man because I do not regularly go to church.
Less than a month ago, on January 5, 2019, I celebrated my 59th birthday. I celebrated it alone because I chose to. I rarely drink and don’t like bars, so that was out of the question. Every time I drink, usually one drink, I just get cranky and sleepy. And, I can feel even the slightest effect on my body. I just don’t feel balanced the next morning.
I can’t remember how the weather was, but I don’t drive when there is snow or ice on the road. I thought I’d just stay home instead.
Don’t go feeling sorry for me, though. It was by choice and by the circumstance that I was alone on my birthday. I just don’t vibrate the way I used to. In the past, I would have partied hardy.
But in a spur of the moment, I treated myself to a Mexican feast. I didn’t have to drive far because the restaurant is located virtually across the street. When the staff got word that it was my birthday, they sent me a Margarita and a shot of tequila. I ate well and drank both drinks. I left joyful and tipsy. It was a great night, nonetheless!
All week I had a burning desire to write about Respect and had planned to do it that night. But by the time I got home, at about 8 pm, I could not write. My head was not there. It was a very funny thought of me even trying to because lately, I have been dictating my posts through a new Blue microphone that I recently purchased for video audio narrating, and maybe later for podcasts.
The way that I felt that night, this story would have come out all wrong. The AI in Microsoft Word’s dictation functionality was not developed for slurred speech. So, I put this post on the shelf.
Then before I knew it, about a month flew by. I was inundated with tasks related to school scholarships, writing, attending workshops, copyediting, and feeling deeper that I needed a change in my life. I felt that a major change was to occur in 2019. I didn’t think hard enough to know exactly how, but I knew that it would. I still don’t know how. Continue reading “And U! And U! You Will Respect Me! – 7 Days 7+ Quotes – On Respect”→
I am finding greater happiness each day now that I am pursuing my passion for writing.
I know that writing, creative communications, as well as, seeking and propagating what I see as truth are my passions. I know because I can’t stop thinking about them. Ideas pop into my head throughout the day, and in the middle of the night. I spend hours each day at the computer posting and researching, often not getting much sleep, and letting eating totally skip my mind.
One of the biggest indicators that I am pursuing my purpose, is when I lose all senses of space and time. This happens when I’m are deep into an effort, and look at my watch and surprisingly notice that 6 hours have passed, when it seemed like only an hour.
Another indicator is not being able to pull away from a project of passion. Like everyone, I have hundreds of items to get to on my task list. But I always gravitate to that same ole task, diligently working it, ignoring the others. No matter how far behind I may get on other ‘to do’s’, I repeatedly go back to the one task that gives me the most joy.
These repeated escapes from reality into manifesting my vision is an indicator that I may have discovered or am discovering my Dharma.
Dharma is our purpose in life, with the belief that we were all created with a unique talent or ability to offer to the world.
But it’s not a passion that is pursued blindly. It is pursuit while adhering to other spiritual laws, and doing so with a sincere intention to help others, with this special talent or ability.
The reason that finding your purpose in life is so important, is that finding your purpose is synonymous with finding happiness. We’re all meant to be happy, and finding our Dharma is the only path to lasting happiness.
So, follow your Dharma no matter what it is, no matter how much you may get discouraged.
Remember, living your Dharma is the only way to optimal and permanent happiness.
My good friend Dale is a culinary arts extraordinaire.
He has been this way since we were roommates in Dayton, Ohio, back in the 1980s. He is quite talented and creates everything from scratch. The cakes that he bakes for clients are imaginative and breathtaking.
The Law of Intention and Desire is one of Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws that resonated with me, more than I had realized, until I read and researched it, in preparation for this post.
For those of you who have read the book, you may realize that I have not been following the order in which the seven laws are presented. This is intentional.
Though I agree with the order of the laws as presented, especially with the first one being The Law of Pure Potentiality¸ I post in accordance with where my reflections, prayer, and meditations lead me, on that day. This may cause a bit of confusion, when one law builds on another, on which I have not covered. I intentionally try to buffer this from happening, by breaking the laws down into, hopefully, easy to understand elements. When appropriate, I also relate to applying or not applying the law to my real-life experiences.
Most people who have read the Seven Spiritual Laws likely read it the first time in order, and many subsequent times, out of order based on what moved them. I read this book for the first time over 20 years ago and have read it, and passed it out, around the world, many times.
Though I will cover all of the laws, in my chosen order, here is the order in which they are presented in Deepak’s book:
Karma or Cause and Effect
Intention & Desire
Dharma or Purpose in Life
This post focuses on the Law of Intention and Desire.
It doesn’t resonate with me because I live it exquisitely. I am still trying to perfect practicing it. Some parts are very challenging, given my circumstance. What excites me about this spiritual law is that, after reading Deepak Chopra’s 7 Spiritual Laws of Success multiple times, I finally understand it. I ‘git it’ now!
This law states that you will attain those things that you desire when you put the least effort into attaining them. This sounds nonsensical, I know. But, the law makes a lot of sense when you dig deeper.
It does not mean that you can be lazy and sit on your seat cushions, and that blessing will knock on the door and say, “It is I. I am here to bless you”. You certainly need to work hard to overcome your challenges and to reach your goals, but what is more powerful than work alone, is harnessing the powers of God and the universe.
In harnessing this energy, we will expel less foolishly. When striving to reach a goal, simply put, get closer to God, and further away from directly challenging the obstacle before you.
This law requires: Acceptance, Taking Responsibility, and Defenselessness.
The Law of Giving and Receiving is one of Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws that resonates with me most. It resonated with me so deeply some 20 years ago when I read his book because I thought of all spiritual practices, I surely had this one correct. I freely gave for most of my life. I remember giving gifts to my teacher in the third grade, and to a girl in the neighborhood, Cheryl Neal, just because giving felt good, and the smile that I received in return was priceless.
There could be no possible way that I had this law wrong because I was the type of person who would give the shirt off of my back. In the late 1990s to the early 2000’s, during the Y2K scam, I came into vast amounts of money, working as a traveling systems consultant, a road warrior. Since I had little social time, I ‘did it up’ on the weekends.
All of the friends around me seemed to wait for my return anxiously, for they knew that I was a free giver, and I had money. During this period, though I made a few million dollars. I would use my debit card, and had over $ 50 K in only one of my checking accounts! In spite, I didn’t have much to show for it. I paid for others’ international trips, cars, extravagant gifts, concerts, loans, you name it.
I did not really give with expectation. Well, at least I thought I didn’t. I just gave to be nice. I really didn’t need all that money. But in reality, I had this entire law all wrong.
I gave mainly because I wanted others to like me. I wanted my family to love me. So, I kept priming the pump. It got me into trouble, though.
In an effort to prove, ‘that I didn’t forget where I came from’, I supplied and funded what friends desired so that my weekends were not empty. That would ultimately lead to me being the one to buy the drugs, weed, coke, and alcohol. I was giving, with the intent of gaining acceptance. It destroyed a season in my life until I got wise to the Law of Giving and Receiving. That was over 15 years ago.
Ironically, the same people, including family, who betrayed me or turned their backs on me in the end, when I was either sick or experiencing trials, were the same ones to whom I gave to so generously. That really hurt, and it caused me to go to the other extreme of becoming reclusive, and less trusting for a period. I am still pretty cautious in that regard.
Though I thought I gave without expectation, I was expecting something… acceptance and love. Sometimes, I expected praise or an expression of gratitude for being so generous but didn’t even receive a thank you.
The exception was with my mother, and with God. I gave to her and God, expecting nothing in return. In both cases, I felt as though I had already received their blessings and that I was actually repaying them. I guess that’s why in these scenarios, I received so much more in return, mainly wisdom and knowledge, and this minor thing call transformation.
The biggest part of my thinking about the Law of Giving and Receiving that I had incorrect, was believing that Giving and Receiving are separate acts. They are not separate, and the law only works if you do both. I gave freely, but, I thought it was kind to not receive, gracious even. But I was breaking this law, and stunting my flow. I didn’t realize this like most people probably don’t.
In one of the articles below, it refers to Giving and Receiving as depending on each other. They are both seasons, within the same flow of spiritual energy. I find this to be true. So, I knew that I had to humble myself to receive, while still generously giving.
The post went further to state that there is no receiving, only giving, for when one gives to another, the receiver gives a proper place or use for the gift given. Both parties are actually giving. That’s an interesting way to look at it.
When I gave service to my mother as her sole caregiver, I did it right. By that time I was quite familiar with the law. I gave everything to her or up for her, without expectation: money, investments, business, credit, reputation, health, and peace of mind (battling my siblings), and I did not worry about the consequences. And, I received royally, gaining discernment on every virtue that I believe God admires.
In return, I was spiritually transformed, bestowed with priceless gifts.
Today, I keep Giving and Receiving united, practicing the law as I believe God desires. But I still recognize those who are like I once was or worse off. Most people are Givers or Takers, but not both. Either can be disappointing.
So, what I now do, is take personalities out of the picture. Whoever I give to, I regard it as giving to God, giving to the universe, or as making a Karmic Deposit.
I see our deeds as either deposits or withdrawals from a Karmic or Spiritual bank. I try to make deposits into this figurative bank account every day. I rarely make withdrawals, but I am paid dividends and interests unexpectedly, usually when I need it most. God is the comptroller of the Karmic Bank and decides when I Receive blessings.
I don’t give with expectation of any specific gift in return anymore. I know that in doing so, I am in tune with all of the universe. I am part of the same exchange that nature participates in, as with the different cycles of weather, seasons, day and night, and all things that God has created.
Therefore, outside of the individuals or personalities involved in this exchange, I focus on what I Give and Receive from God and the universe, and know that according to law, it will be returned to me, ‘blessed and multiplied’.
“Here are helpful articles and videos that dive deeper into this subject.” – Kevy
Like the symbol for infinity, giving and receiving are actually one thing with polarized or dualistic aspects. When you look at the symbol for infinity, and imagine energy flowing through it from one side to the other and back again, which side can you say is the giver? Which side is the receiver?
The answer is – they both are!
Giving cannot occur without a receiver. Receiving, therefore, is actually an act of giving. Receiving gives the act of giving someplace to go.
In truth, only giving exists. In the physical Universe, where we experience the illusion of separation, it appears that one person can give an object, such as money, and receive something in exchange, such as clothing or food.
If you examine this “exchange” closely, you will notice that the only action that occurs is giving. One gives money, and the other gives the money someplace to go. The other gives food or clothing, and the other gives the food and clothes someplace to go.
The need for exchange is created by the mind which believes the illusion of separation.
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” – Luke 6:38 “There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and [there is] that withholdeth more than is meet, but [it tendeth] to poverty. The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.” – Proverbs 11:24 – 11:25
“Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth [it] not, to him it is sin.” – James 4:17
“Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, [so let him give]; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.” – 2 Corinthians 9:7
Passages in this section express the general spiritual principle of giving and receiving. When we give to one another, freely and without conditions, sharing our blessings with others and bearing each other’s burdens, the giving multiplies and we receive far more than what was given. Even when there is no immediate prospect of return, Heaven keeps accounts of giving, and in the end blessing will return to the giver, multiplied manyfold. We must give first; to expect to receive without having given is to violate the universal law. On the other hand, giving in order to receive–with strings attached, with the intention of currying favor, or in order to make a name for oneself–is condemned. See also The Golden Rule, pp. 172-74.
“Those who act kindly in this world will have kindness.” – Islam. Qur’an 39.10
“One must pour cold water on the ground before he can tread on soft soil.” – African Traditional Religions. Yoruba Proverb (Nigeria)
“Giving simply because it is right to give, without thought of return, at a proper time, in proper circumstances, and to a worthy person, is enlightened giving. Giving with regrets or in the expectation of receiving some favor or of getting something in return, is selfish giving.” – Hinduism. Bhagavad Gita 17.20-21
“I first began to understand the Law of Giving and receiving, after reading Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Laws of Spiritual Success. I have read this less than 100 page book and continually work to abide by these spiritual laws of the universe, or of God. I have passed copies of this book, as it requests, to many people in many countries.” In my opinion, this law is one of the most important of the seven laws. I will discuss the remaining six laws on future posts.” – Kevy
“This video uses and analogy of giving and receiving that I used for years. I see giving and receiving as making deposits and withdrawals from a Karmic bank. We build up our balance, and eventually received interest and dividends.” – Kevy