Andrea Gibbs is an exemplary example of a caring spirit, devoted to improving the lives and care of seniors. One of her several callings is to post articles and other content on making the task of senior caregiving efficient, effective, and pleasing to the elderly. Her tips are a godsend for those feeling their way through the caregiving process.
“Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” ~ Ephesians 6:2-3 – KJV
I’m Andrea Gibbs, Born, raised, and still living in New York. I’m a work-at-home mom with a background in business development, strategy, and social media marketing. I’m a blog contributor at Serenity Senior care to motivate other parents about how they can enhance their elderly loved one’s quality of life.
Why Is It Important to Spend Some Quality Time with Aging Parents?
As you grow up and marry and start a family of your own, your dream changes into dedicating yourself to work to meet all your needs and achieve the life you dream for them. That’s why you put a lot of effort into your work, doing extra hours and working harder than usual. You become too driven in the work that you set aside your family, friends, and eventually your parents.
You call or text them occasionally because you don’t have time to spend quality time with them and send them gifts because you haven’t seen them in a while. But no matter how many expensive gifts you have given your parents or how many greeting cards you send to their mailbox, what they need is your presence. Sending cards on mother’s day or birthday is good, but it would lighten up their mood and hearts more if you join the celebration with them.
As you see them on some important occasions, you may notice noticeable changes in their health, appearance, and behavior. And start to realize that your parents need your utmost attention now more than ever before. But sometimes, the idea of creating a relationship with your aging parents now that they need attention and care may feel overwhelming because of your busy schedule, and you usually put your parents on the bottom of your list of priorities. You may feel guilty about it, but there is nothing you can do to change the past. What’s important is that you realize your shortcomings and find ways to express your love and gratitude to your parents now.
Just last week, I celebrated my mother’s 103rd birthday! You may find from prior posts about my mother, that she is ‘my favorite girl in the world’. We were always ultra-close from childhood until her ascension.
Perhaps it was because I was her last child and because my father died 8 months after I was born. I don’t know, but our connection was strong, ride-or-die-strong’, and everyone in my immediate family knew it. She made it clearer than I did.
Caring for my mother for several years was a tumultuous experience emotionally, spiritually, physically, and logistically. We moved together across 3 states, dismantling and reassembling what we would call home, until our final destination in Denver, Colorado. She transitioned several months after our arrival, succumbing to cancer.
For the first-time caregiver, taking care of a loved one can be overwhelming so there is a bit of responsibility for seniors to plan for the day when they may need someone to care for them. But they must also plan for having a sustainable lifestyle that makes their later years their finer years.
Though the experience of caregiving can get grueling, if plans are not in place, seasoned caregivers will tell you, with a little guidance, it can also be one of the most fulfilling experiences life has to offer.
Harry Cline has compiled some of the internet’s best resources to give you a head start on your caregiver’s journey by preparing seniors to someday be cared for by another while remaining comfortable until that time comes.
Harry Cline, of New Caregiver, submitted this post for seniors to select their ‘Senior Lifestyle Options’. I appreciate him. Thanks, Harry!
I have taken the audacity to interject in Harry’s content that senior lifestyle preparation is the precursor to senior caregiving. In retrospect, I would advise seniors to plan their lives and lifestyle with this inevitability in mind.
…Someone may have to care for you later in your life. Be realistic about it. Kevy
As having served as a sole caregiver for my mother as she approached 100 years old, I will not glamourize the journey of caregiving for an elder, especially when coming from a large family, and having a mother who made no concrete plans for her care. It was a topic that she and the family avoided.
Fortunately, my experience ended as one of the most profound in my life.
But glamour came only after my work was done, and God took over. Now, I smile every day that I think of my mother, knowing that I gave all that I could when she needed me, as she did when I was a child, and I needed her.
I did not realize until years later, that it would be “the most fulfilling experiences life has to offer.”