“Lying lips [are] abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly [are] his delight.” – Proverbs 12:22
Integrity is one of my most valuable virtues.
Now that I am well on my spiritual journey, maintaining Integrity has become of greater importance in every choice that I make or action I take.
The reason I give Integrity such importance has to do partly with my age and experience. And, having had many people in my life who were not “of their word”. …Friends, Family, and Colleagues.
The choices and challenges that I face today are generally not new ones. As they say, ‘This is not my first rodeo’. It seems that most of the choices I face today are ones in which I am already well-experienced. On most challenges to my Integrity, I have made incorrect choices in the past, and am well aware of the consequences of not being true. So, I ensure that I am, no matter what the truth may bear.
It may not be easy for others to make the correct choices, and to be regarded as men or women of their my word. …Not I!
Aging has also caused me to focus more on a legacy. My legacy is important to me. The reason it is of such importance is that when God comes for me, I want to be able to leave a message, purpose, and inspiration behind for others.
I am very serious about leaving a legacy. My tombstone is already engraved with: ‘His mission on Earth is complete’.
I simply do not see my life today as exclusively dedicated to myself. I do for others in daily deeds, but also for my best virtues to be reflected upon and be useful to others.
My poetry, stories, social media content, and blog posts reflect the legacy that I am creating. I practice what I preach, believe the things I write, eat the foods I recommend, and follow the health regimens that I write about.
I reveal my flaws to the world, without question. Because we are all flawed, though few admit it. My blog is a revelation of my life, no less. I hold Integrity as a very high priority and live my life accordingly, so that my legacy may be rich.
My mother is the best example of a legacy that I know. Though she has been gone for over seven years now, I clearly remember what she represented, not only by her words but by her deeds. She represents the following virtues to me: Integrity, Diligence, Faith, Humility, and Commitment.
I am not sure how others may regard me, once I am gone, but I strive to be a man of Integrity. I will strive for this until I die. I am also a man of Courage, Faithfulness, Diligence, Commitment, and Vision.
“The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” – Bob Marley
Embodying Integrity means having a firm adherence to a code of moral values.
Therefore, Integrity is a reflection of ones’ morals or spirituality. In order for one to have integrity, one must have a moral code, other than their own. The moral gauge of their actions is usually found in religion and spirituality. Therefore, a person’s Integrity is a reflection of their spiritual and moral character.
The absence or presence of Integrity in a person is a very telling detail about them. It reveals many things about the person. So very carefully evaluate other’s integrity as a determinant for whether they are complementary to your life or not.
It makes no sense to strive to be genuine when you surround yourself with disingenuous people. – Kevy
I’ve been in scenarios when I was younger where I found myself very confused and full of guilt and shame inside. The source of my turmoil then was that I was aware of and spoke of virtues that I did not practice. That man is Forever Gone.
I did not practice the virtues in which I believed, because I wanted to be accepted by those in my circle. The problem was that I wanted to be accepted by friends and family members who were less virtuous than I desired to be.
The internal conflicts that it caused were very damaging, but the damage led me to realize that it is not only important to ‘practice what you preach’, ‘keep your word’, and ‘stand for something, even if you stand alone’. The conflict caused me to accept that it is also ‘about the company that you keep’.
Otherwise, efforts to leave an admirable legacy that may inspire others will be wasted efforts, if tainted by the low vibration of others.
What Integrity Means – What It Reveals About A Person
“When the norm is decency, other virtues can thrive: integrity, honesty, compassion, kindness, and trust.” – Raja Krishnamoorthi
What is Integrity
As I’ve already stressed, Integrity reflects one’s moral compass. It is the self-imposed value that one puts on themselves to measure every action that they take, every decision that they make, every word they say.
What most people don’t realize is that because Integrity is a self-imposed value, it suggests that Integrity is not simply being honest with others. Integrity means being honest with yourself, as well.
Integrity is ’The Light’ of a disciplined consciousness.
It is practicing what you preach. It is having the soundness of character and morals to do the right thing, for the right reasons, even when no one is watching. It requires thinking about and acting on one’s values versus on his or her personal gain. It involves having a loud conscience and listening to it and acting on it.
Integrity is when your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are in sync with your core values. And, just as artificial intelligence (AI) improves upon itself, so does the practice of Integrity. As one evolves, they generally become wiser, and more connected to spirit. This awakening process will ignite an insatiable desire to embody Integrity, as well as, creating a lasting Legacy, and fulfilling God’s will.
If this is your passionate desire, and you strive for it, you will find that over time you will become a more admired person, you will love yourself, and exemplify honesty brilliantly!
When you ascend to heaven, you will find that you left an inspiring legacy for others to aspire to, as well.
The problem is that not everyone has such aspirations. These aspirations may conflict with their desires for money, power, or notoriety just as my foolish behavior in the past conflicted with the gravity of my soul.
It does not bother some people when they are untruthful with themselves or others when they stand to reap rewards. These are not people who consider the consequences of their actions, in the future. They make decisions in the now and let the chips fall where they may.
My suggestion is that if you find those types of people in your life, get away as soon as you can!
They are no good for you to even be around. Do not trivialize your differences as ‘agreeing to disagree’. If you do, you must challenge yourself by asking if you truly desire to please God.
No one likes to be around a hypocrite. You should not lower your standards to be acquainted with them because it will impede your spiritual process, tarnish your legacy, stifle your goals, and separate you further from God.
What Virtues Does Integrity Reveal & Not Reveal About A Person
Here are just a few virtues that Integrity or absence thereof reveals about a person. Though my list is not scientific and far from comprehensive, it shows why it is highly recommended to stay as far as possible from those around you, who lack Integrity.
The virtue of Integrity is directly associated with the following virtues:
- Truthfulness – With yourself and with others
- Accountability/ Wisdom – Understanding and considering the consequences of your actions, beyond right now. It is knowing that what you do may not matter now but may affect you later in life.
- Honesty – Honesty is the foundation of Integrity. You cannot have Integrity and be dishonest.
- Uprightness – Integrity is being upright, which means not just talking about what is right, but living up to it, and standing up for it.
- Humility – Being honest even when you must admit that you are wrong. Having the ability to retreat when it is morally advisable.
- Morality/Faithfulness – You must be morally or spiritually inclined to have Integrity. You cannot be if you are untruthful.
- Compassion – Considering that your actions, though they may benefit you, may harm others, and therefore should be reconsidered.
- Shamelessness – Doing the right thing no matter who is around and what others may think of you.
- Fearless/Courage – Maintaining Integrity often requires standing alone. If you believe in your truth, you are willing to stand alone for it, if not, you just flow with the crowd.
“He is not wise to me who is wise in words only, but he who is wise in deeds.” – St. Gregory
Building On Your Integrity:
To build on your Integrity like Siri’s AI does overtime when she secretly listens, you must first accept that like spirituality, you will never perfect Integrity. Improving ones’ Integrity is a lifetime endeavor. You will never be perfectly truthful or spiritual. You will only get better with continual practice.
Here are suggestions for improving your Integrity:
- Reflect on yourself and whether you feel that you have Integrity. Do this when in the midst of choices, but more importantly, after those choices have been made.
- Set goals each day to improve your integrity. Everyone could stand to improve in this area.
- Surround yourself with those who show integrity
- Develop yourself spiritually. You will never gain integrity without having a spiritual gauge. As you get closer to the divine spirit, your integrity will organically improve.
- Apologize and ask for forgiveness of those with whom you were not honest in the past. Make amends.
- Show that you can admit the truth even when it may not be flattering to you.
- Become a person of your word. Let your “yes” mean yes, and your “no” mean no.
- Take off your mask, your façade. Be the same authentic you in all scenarios.
- Think before you speak. Speak for eternity, whereas your truth today will stand the test of time.
“Integrity means that you are the same in public as you are in private.” – Joyce Meyer
Questions – To Challenge and Refine Your Integrity:
To refine your Integrity keep the process of evolving and improving active and ask yourself periodically:
Do I know what my values are?
What is my vision for life and the world in which I live?
Am I being conscious of where I spend my time and money, or do I not give it much thought?
What am I consuming, not in material things only, but in information, friends, and other external energies?
Am I being truthful with myself and with others? Am I being denial about sensitive matters?
“He that walketh uprightly walketh surely: but he that perverteth his ways shall be known.” – Proverbs 10:9
“The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.” – Proverbs 11:3
“Better [is] the poor that walketh in his integrity, than [he that is] perverse in his lips, and is a fool.” – Proverbs 19:1
“Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.” – 1 Peter 3:16
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.” – Philippians 4:8
“If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain
“It takes less time to do a thing right than to explain why you did it wrong.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“We learned about honesty and integrity – that the truth matters… that you don’t take shortcuts or play by your own set of rules… and success doesn’t count unless you earn it fair and square.” – Michelle Obama
“The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower
“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.” – Oprah Winfrey
“With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.” – Zig Ziglar
“Integrity is the lifeblood of democracy. Deceit is a poison in its veins.” – Edward Kennedy
I’ve learned to try to sustain myself by holding on to the integrity of who I am. I’m not talking big diva. “I’m quiet. I’m shy. And I became stronger when I stopped trying to be the person they wanted me to be.” – Crystal Waters
“Openness, respect, integrity – these are principles that need to underpin pretty much every other decision that you make.” – Justin Trudeau
“Honor your commitments with integrity.’ – Les Brown
“Reggae music is a music of integrity; reggae’s consciousness was built on a message. My music speaks of love, equality and spirituality, and I would hope that one finds this integrity in my music.” – Stephen Marley
“The golden age was when people were starting to understand what hip-hop was and how to use it. I was lucky to come up then. Everybody wanted to be original and have substance; it was somewhat conscious… There was an integrity that people respected.” – Rakim
Poem – Poetrimony
By Kevy Michaels
I am sorry
…Sorry for the past
The things that may have caused you pain
It was not my intention
If our worlds collided
Blowing apart everything in sight
…That was not my plan
I was lost
…Constantly making mistakes
…But I’ve grown from those mistakes
I know who I am
And I wish you would believe
That I have been transformed
I’m closer to God than I’ve ever been
I strive to help others
…Doing good deeds
And working hard
…With an emphasis on Integrity
I saw you and I as connected
We had an illustrious history together
I see you as you are
Through new eyes of wisdom…
I can understand that occasionally
You may express disappointments in me
Even judging and scolding me
I respect that
I don’t remember events as you say they occurred
But, My Dear Friend
I cannot keep re-living this shadowy past
….While I’m here Today…
Trying to be who God ordained me to be
I live in the Here & Now
Respecting you as you are today
I feel I deserve the same from you
I’ve let go
I feel that you should too
There remains the chance that we could leave an impressive legacy ahead
But if you don’t want to move forward
I respect that
I’m just sorry to say
That I’ll leave you in that past
I’ll journey from this point forward
I will see you
As I see you Today
Success On Building Integrity – 9 Tips to Help You Strengthen Your Integrity – August 16, 2017 – Robin Amster
“Talk to the people around you” to get a handle on your integrity, recommends Tony Simons, author of The Integrity Dividend: Leading by the Power of Your Word. “Find ways to get honest feedback from others. You need to find out if—and that goes double if you’re a boss—you have the appropriate level of trust. Integrity stands as a driver of trust.” Anderson advises that you “let those around you call you out…. Be willing to have people police you. Your trusted advisers [should be] people who will tell you whether you’re acting with integrity or whether there’s a better way to handle something.”
As for building your integrity and modeling it for others, Simons, Peterson, and Anderson offer these suggestions:
- Fulfill your promises.
- Keep appointments.
- Before you make a commitment…“Stop and soberly reflect on whether you are 100 percent sure you can deliver,” says Simons. “You need to be dispassionate in that evaluation.”
- Get comfortable with saying no.
- Examine how you react in knee-jerk situations…
- Polish your communication skills.
- Consider the habits and skills you need to develop to enhance your integrity.
- Avoid people who lack integrity. Read More
Tired of People Lying to You? Here’s Why They’re Doing It (and How to Stop Them) – Honestly, liars are just trying to survive – By Wanda Thibodeaux – January 16, 2017
Honesty is supposed to be one of the key components of integrity (you know, doing the right thing when no one is looking, that thing that’s so critical to building the relationships that help your business thrive). Yet, according to Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Virginia, lying is on the same par with brushing your teeth. Most people lie to someone else at least once or twice a day, and over a week, they lie to 30 percent of the individuals they interact with. And as with any bad habit, if you’re going to stop people from lying to you, you have to understand what’s motivating the behavior.
So you’ve found a liar…now what do you do?
Once you’re sure that someone’s been stingy with the truth, you have four main options for how to handle it, as psychologist, emotional intelligence expert and author Dr. Travis Bradberry outlines:
1) Do nothing (sometimes the cons of calling the person out outweigh the pros).
2) Deflect with humor (acknowledges the lie but gives the liar a chance to admit the dishonesty without fearing you’ll retaliate).
3) Play dumb (asking lots of questions to get details can force the liar into admitting the dishonesty without you calling them out).
4) Point out the lie (best done privately with directness).
Within these options, given the self-protective purpose of lying, seize opportunities to be reassuring and encouraging in ways that get to the root of the behavior. Empathy goes a long way. For instance, if you know that someone is strapped for cash, but they lie and say it’s no problem covering your bill at lunch, you can say something like, “Gosh, I appreciate that, but no–I can’t contribute to an empty wallet when I remember what broke feels like myself!” The more you can convince a liar that the threats they’re consciously or subconsciously perceiving aren’t an issue, the more they’ll probably relax, trust you and put their two-faced ways behind them. Read More
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Gandhi was famous for it. Your parents tell you to get it. And it’s our second core virtue. We’re talking about integrity.
Excerpt from week 4 of Forgotten Virtues on Integrity with Craig Groeschel.
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