I Enjoy Being In Solitude More Than Being With People – Maybe I Love Myself Too Much? – It May Be Just For A Season – But I Prefer To Be By Myself Right Now

If ever there was a time to enjoy Solitude, now is that time.  Let me give you a few reasons:  Truth Decay, Racism, Hate, The Lobster, Riots, COVID19, Uncertainty, etc.  This post reveals that I am spending most of my free time alone.  …And I am joyous!  God is there with me showing me how beautiful I am, and where I may have gone wrong.  …Or did I?  Was it all for my greater good?  Kevy

I was speaking to a friend the other day and I was telling her that I am not sure if I could ever be in a close relationship, live with another person or even engage with my family.  She agreed with me for much the same reasons.

I know it sounds a little strange but it’s not at all.  I’m in spirit now more than into people.  I enjoy Being alone.  I have so many rituals that I follow which keeps me at a higher vibration.  …Rituals such as grounding on a regular basis, meditation, and prayer daily.  I have a lot of health rituals such as juicing, also do mineral baths, with salt and oils.  I have a creative side where I’m writing, making videos, as well as putting content out on the blog.

It’s almost impossible for me to do these things and not leave another person or make them feel ignored.  I’ve gone through this before.  Yet I am not lonely.  I enjoy this time.  There are a lot of different reasons for this. 


I can think back to when I was extraordinarily successful.  I was miserable, but I had lots of people in my life, a lot of bad influences.  There were good ones as well, but the bad is what lead me to where I am today.  My family, as I cared for my elderly mother before she ascended to heaven, did very wicked things to me in a fight over control, and likely over money or inheritance.  Agencies and individuals for whom I volunteered my services to sincerely, betrayed me, used me.  Friends, when at my lowest point in life, gossiped about me, but didn’t help me.

Now, I find that all of these things were really blessings.  I put the upside of them, down.  I was looking at it from the upside-down and now I realize that, when everything was taken away, the material things, the family, friends, reputation, creditworthiness, I had no one to go, but to God.  Then I realized that it may have been of God’s doing that I had no one But God.

Photo – Carolyn- V – Unsplash

And then I began to feel like I had been spiritually transformed.  I started seeing things differently.  I also realized that this new perspective, this new spiritual perspective, required regular practice.  I had to meditate, I had to ground, I had to take care of my body my mind.

I would come across some of the same people later in life and realize that I had changed.  It was no discredit to them how they lived their life, but often it was about the same as it was 20 years ago.  But I had changed.  Now I find myself discovering things about myself that I never knew, such as being creative.  I was always analytical, never creative.  I found that I can sing a little bit and write songs.  I found that I can work on DIY projects around the house and get them done.

I found that I always had this awfully long list of things to do to better my life, and better myself, but I was distracted from the list.  And the list kept getting longer.

So, here I am enjoying life with God, but alone.  And I am experiencing adventure every single day.

How could I ever get away from this feeling that I am immersed in so heavily?  I believe that many people who may feel like me, are experiencing it in their own unique way.  Even if I met someone who is vibrating as I am, it is quite likely we would still clash.

Another part of my transformation is probably that I’m older now.  I am wiser and I am just a little bit more subtle than I used to be.  I don’t have to be popular.  I don’t have to be handsome or attractive.  …Or have a lot of money.  I don’t need any more ‘things’ anymore.  I just want to be me.  I want to know my essence.  I want to know my purpose.  I want to know God’s will for me.  And I think I’m at the unveiling of finding that out.  I can’t go on a journey for this long of a time and never completed it!  I can’t be distracted by outside forces, energies, and emotions’ demands on me.

Maybe I love myself too much.   That doesn’t sound very flattering, but in this state of mind, in this new paradigm, I can read the wind.  I can feel vibrations.  I can feel the spirit and energy that Is happening, that has happened, and that will happen.  It is giving me seemingly magical access to divinity.

Photo – Ravi Pinisetti – Unsplash

We all have such access, but not many of us can peel away the layers of the onion of our lives and attain it.  In my case, I did some of my own peeling away, but my failures, my downfalls, my successes all worked as they should have.  These things drew people to me in success, and away from me in despair.  These things brought positive energies into my life and brought negative ones.  I have to say the latter was greater than the former.  And now I’m here trusting myself, trusting God, and experiencing joy in my achievement, creations, on my own.

Without the Lord, this would not be possible.  Without solitude and stillness, I would have never connected with spirit in this way.  I am grateful!

Maybe I love myself too much.  Kevy Michaels




Kevy’s Video On Evolving To Being Alone

 “Will I Ever Be In Love Again? – Do I Care?  “We have the power to be our own friend or the folly to become our own enemy” – Krishna

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Over the past years, I spend most of my time alone. Don’t get me wrong, I do interact with wonderful people in writing workshops, at Whole Foods Market, doing volunteerism, and with people, I meet when doing daily errands. But this time is spent outside of the time that I isolate myself.

I follow many health, spiritual, and creative rituals, and regiments, making it challenging, if not impossible to accommodate another person actively in my life. My prayer and meditation alone take hours each day, and only involves me and God.

I am unsure if I will have another romantic relationship, simply because I am not sure if my potential mate could put up with what I have found that keeps me grounded. It would be worse than the stereotypical image of the husband who is absorbed into video games, sports, or being with his buddies, to the chagrin of his wife.

I don’t know if it’s even fair to expect another person to put up with me. At the same time, I feel the most grounded with spirit and self than I have ever felt in my life. And I don’t want to lose this feeling; I only want to intensify it overtime.

This is a dilemma at times. It especially causes me to contemplate when I reflect on how popular I once was when I earned 6-figure incomes and traveled the world. I had many people in my life. I seemed exciting to many, but I was not happy. Compared to where I am today, I loathe ever going back to the dynamic and sometimes volatile experiences that I had in those friendships, and romantic relationships.

My fear is that accommodating such relationships will take me away from my spiritual essence, so I go deeper within, and shun the external, as a general practice.

Maybe I will never be in love with another again. Maybe this is my season for loving me. I am not sure, but I know that this sentiment is real. I wonder if anyone else feels this way.

Kevy Michaels

I don’t see this as a problem, though. I view this challenge as a responsibility that God will guide me to better understand over time. I do desire romantic love, but don’t obsess over it. Without it, I am receiving and sharing many other forms of love every day.

Have you ever felt that loving yourself interferes with your ability to maintain lasting friend and romantic relationships?

18 Things That Happen When You Learn To Love Being Alone – Thoughts Catalog – October 24, 20183 – Mitzi J on Thought Catalog

As I got older being alone became my favorite thing to do. I love my own company and treasure the moments I get to spend time with myself. I love being alone, not in a depressing kind of way alone, but in an enjoy the silence, the tranquility, let me think kind of way. Doing things alone sounds like a very hedonistic lifestyle, but it’s just the conscious choice to spend time with oneself.

Many wonderful things happen when you learn to love being alone.  Read More

  1. You learn to trust yourself.
  2. You recharge.
  3. You become stronger.
  4. You reflect on your own life.
  5. You can do what you want.
  6. You get in touch with your emotions.
  7. You will get more things done.
  8. Your mind is happier.
  9. You get to know yourself more.
  10. You appreciate other people more.

8 More Things That Happen When You Learn To Love Being Alone – Review the complete list.

Quotes on Being Alone

“For, in the seclusion of a cell—an existence whose quietness is only varied by the silent meals, the solemnity of ritual and long solitary walks in the woods—the troubled waters of the mind grow still and clear, and much that is hidden away and all that clouds it floats to the surface and can be skimmed away; and after a time one reaches a state of peace that is unthought of in the ordinary world.” —Patrick Leigh Fermor

“Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” —Mark 6:31

“Do not flee to solitude from the community. Find God first in the community, then He will lead you to solitude.” —Thomas Merton

“Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Hebrews 13:5

“We require such a solitude as shall hold us to its revelations when we are in the street and in palaces.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

“But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” – Matthew 19:26

“if we possess inward solitude, we do not fear being alone, for we know that we are not alone. Neither do we fear being with others, for they do not control us. In the midst of noise and confusion we are settled into a deep inner silence. Whether alone or among people, we always carry with us a portable sanctuary of the heart.” —Richard Foster

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33

“Solitude shows us what we should be, society shows us what we are.” —Lord David Cecil

“I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.” – John 14:18

“There is a significant difference between loneliness and solitude; the former being a negative attribute, is characterized by a feeling of isolation while the latter is a state of being alone by choice and without feeling lonely. In Hinduism, traditionally persons seeking solitude in life are those who seek close proximity and surrender to God through devotion or even those who are indulged in creativity of some kind that needs considerable time for contemplation and learning.” – Hindu, Hinduism and Hindustan: Part XLVII – by Dr. Jaipal Singh – Bookmark and Share – Loneliness and Depression  – Read More

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” – Genesis 2:18

“Solitude bears the same relation to the mind that sleep does to the body. It affords it the necessary opportunities for repose and recovery.” —William G. Simms

“Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.” – John 16:32

“It is easy, in the world, to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy, in solitude, to live after your own; but the great man is he who, in the midst of the crowd, keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

“To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven . . . a time to keep silence and a time to speak.” —Ecclesiastes: III, 1 & 7

Benefits of a Solitude Routine – Binte Muqaddim, Mon 24 Rajab 1434AH 3-6-2013AD – The Productive Muslim

Solitude is a time to find joy for your soul: to re-energize the body and mind. To begin with, you must be alone. No disturbances. Retreat to your favorite place – a place where you normally find peace and quiet or a place that makes you happy. Lie down and just be. Listen to all the sounds you usually miss on a busy day. Do you hear the birds chirping? The wind in the trees? The sound of your heart beating? Feel the rhythm of your breathing. Now begin with Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) name and match it to your rhythm. You feel everything leave you. Your mind will be free of any thoughts; your body will be free of all tension. This is your solitude zone. You have eliminated the world.

It is at this time that you must do the things that will bring joy to your soul:

  • your favorite dhikr will be more meaningful
  • your favorite surah will impact you more deeply
  • your journal writing will be most honest
  • your power nap will be more energizing
  • your reflection and contemplation will be more valuable (soul searching/listening to your heart)
  • this is the perfect time to introspect and hold yourself accountable for all your words and deeds
  • your goal setting will be clearer

Our soul/nafs (self) can be likened to a snake. If we do not control it and tame it, it can be a danger to us. When kept in check, coupled with salah, dhikr, and good deeds, it is like the snake that is frozen beneath the snow. However, should we not take the time to reign it in and keep it under control, it will be as though the snow has melted and the heat has agitated the snake. It will now become wild and unrestrained and this will lead to temptation and sin. We will let shaytan win his battle without a fight and we will be responsible for our own downfall.

The Spiritual Disciplines: Solitude and Silence – BRETT AND KATE MCKAY – A Man’s Life

They are the spiritual disciplines through which prophets as varied as Moses, John the Baptist, Jesus, Buddha, and Muhammad prepared for their ministries and received revelations that founded new religions.

They are the spiritual disciplines that have been praised by poets and philosophers as diverse as Plato, Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, Montaigne, Rousseau, Goethe, Wordsworth, Byron, Shelley, Emerson, Thoreau, Whitman, Muir, Tillich, and Camus (to name only a few).

They are the spiritual disciplines that allowed many of the world’s greatest leaders, from Ulysses S. Grant and Abraham Lincoln to Winston Churchill and Theodore Roosevelt, to make history defining decisions.

They are the spiritual disciplines of solitude and silence, and they are vitally important to the health of the soul (and of society).

They are also arguably the most intriguing and compelling of the spiritual disciplines, and yet also seem the hardest to come by in our crowded, noisy, modern world.

Silence and solitude can seem out of reach to the average man — the exclusive purview of the kind of religious ascetics and hermetic philosophers just mentioned, or a luxury that can be indulged only by those leaders who face choices freighted with heavy meaning and high stakes.  Read More


“Drishti rituals” removes negative energy? | Sadhguru speech – Dec 1, 2017 – Perceive Truth with Sadhguru

SHOCKING TRUTH about Karma: Why Bad People Get Their Way | What Happened to Doing Good? – Jun 14, 2019 – Master Sri Akarshana

Some people do good things and seem to never get anything back, yet bad people seem to get their way. The reason behind this is because Karma and the universal energies do not favor positive or negative, instead, energy favors strength and momentum. So, what can you do with this information, I will explain in this LIVE session.  This is a shocking truth to a lot of people out there.  Peace to you all.  Master Sri Akarshana


Have you been feeling crazy emotions, lost, seeing visions, and feeling people’s energy more often recently? You are not going crazy my friend. You are just going through an awakening and shifting into higher consciousness. We are leaving the 3rd Dimension and entering the 4th dimension

  • We used to be so much more than this physical body/vehicle
  • We are a mind, body, soul having a human experience
  • No matter how you are feeling you are never alone. The universe always sends someone your way. You aren’t here to be perfect

I hope you all enjoyed this video and have a wonderful evening

Walking the Spiritual Path Alone – Apr 14, 2019 – Awaken Insight

Many people find themselves increasingly alone on the spiritual journey.  This is not only very common but in some sense intrinsic to the journey

Loneliness is actually helping you! | Meditate in Solitude and Realize Who You Are! – Oct 26, 2017 – Supreme Yogi

We all feel loneliness. The feeling of loneliness within each one of us is not just an unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness is not just a feeling that is caused by a lack of acceptance from others or a lack of a sense of union with people around us. It is not something that reminds us of the need for a life partner. But rather, loneliness is actually a wake-up call that reminds us about our highest mission to attain the Ultimate truth of our own existence.

According to the teachings of ancient scriptures and Self-realized masters, our ‘constant search for happiness-and-pleasure through union-and-acceptance’ reach fulfillment only when we attain Self-realization.

In this video, Indian yogi and Self-realized guru Swami Sivananda explain the utmost importance of being alone (spending time in solitude) and the practice of meditation for the attainment of the Ultimate goal of human life – Self-realization! All spiritual aspirants must watch this. If you find this video helpful to you

Being Totally Alone | Loneliness | Pain of Change | Spiritual Awakening? *shrugs* – Aug 2, 2019 – Brian Diesel

Truly Being Alone: Pain of Change | Spiritual Awakening? Shrugs

Michael Bublé & Diana Krall – Alone Again (Naturally) {LYRICS} – Feb 5, 2015 – 7JWM7

Gilbert O’Sullivan – Alone Again (original version) – Aug 19, 2006 – valliseasons1

Gilbert O’Sullivan – Alone Again (Naturally) [Piano/Instrumental Cover] – Feb 1, 2018 – Azrin Hilmi

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15 thoughts on “I Enjoy Being In Solitude More Than Being With People – Maybe I Love Myself Too Much? – It May Be Just For A Season – But I Prefer To Be By Myself Right Now

  1. Kevy, I read this again and enjoyed every word so much. As a fellow introvert, I feel this strongly. My husband is also an introvert, which is great, as we allow each other alone time and then come back together. It is particularly challenging after a busy day or work, but a few hours to decompress and I can face being a nurse again. I love to be alone!

    1. This is a sneak peep into tomorrow’s post.

      Both you and your husband may realize after watching this video, and reading the post tomorrow, that you are Gifted. Bestowed on you by God.

      It will never leave you. But you must exalt your talents & Love. It is a responsibility that comes with the gift.

      I hope you like it. Kevy

    1. Thanks. It is a way to reach Tranquility if only for a moment.

      Navin it is only a Season, though. This is my Season for a deeper connection to God.

      We all have Seasons. Human Seasons are based on the path they’re on….their deeds, victories, failures, mistakes, lessons, and discernment influences their Seasons.

      Nature must follow God’s will and has no choice. Nature follows the universal Season of Winter <-> Fall. Nature is on the same cycle simultaneously.

      Human have freewill and therefore go through different Season on different cycles.

      But Spring always comes for us all.

      This is my Season for a bit of Solitude & Tranquility. May God bless U.

      Warmest Regards

      1. You’re welcome, Kevy….It’s definitely a way to reach tranquility….it’s a beautiful season for a deeper connection….to the inner God….thank you for your wonderful sharing….keep expressing….much love

  2. Yernasia Quorelios

    ♡ So is Goddess, Mother Nature; it’s YOUR!!! Mom, God planted a Seed, SHE!!! carried YOU!!! for Nine Months then Gave Painful Birth to Bring YOU!!! in to The World


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