This post is on the Spiritual Law of Giving & Receiving, taken from Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, that I read over 20 years ago.
The principles presented in this short book are as dear to me as are the bible’s principles. I have distributed copies of this book to others around the world. I live by all seven of its principles.
If you read this book (less than 90 pages), you can get a good idea as to how my spiritual mind works. You will see its principles reflected in my posts and opinions. It is reflected in how I live. It especially influences how I give. It includes a chapter devoted to Giving & Receiving on which I will explain in this post.
Deepak’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success was very instrumental in my spiritual transformation. It explains spiritual principles in multi-metaphysical dimensions. It presents spirituality scientifically, astrologically, psychologically, emotionally, and practically, while I perceive the bible as not being as multidimensional. The book does not contradict the bible, though, it expands it. Every principle can be associated with biblical principles. I suggest that you read it as I have many times.
I have wanted to write this post for months now, but could not muster up the creative energy to do so. I may appear to have it all together, based on the content that I create, but I have flaws and bad days just like everyone else. I practice and passionately believe wholeheartedly in the perspectives I share, but that does not mean that I do not experience seasons in my life like everyone else.
I am grateful that I understand the concept of seasons. The theme of this blog is devoted to life’s seasons. In fact, I believe that everything is seasonal; everything must change, and Spring always comes. So does Winter, Summer, and Fall.
Everything is on a universal divine cycle to which we must surrender and adapt, just as animals, trees, and all other living things do. Unfortunately, our free will allows us to make choices. Many times those choices conflict with the season, and we become disconnected from the universal flow. We become disconnected from God. This is clearly when our egos are in the driver’s seat.
Given today’s events, incendiary racial and political state, and “The Lobster”, I have been in a melancholy season for the past few months. I found myself with low energy, down, anxious, and a bit depressed, but for no specific reason. I could not do any of the things that I normally do to remain whole and healthy. I haven’t been exercising as I usually do, sleeping as well as I should, eating well, or creating.
Luckily, such emotional stigmas don’t last for very long. I usually experienced these feelings for only a few days. Normally, I rarely experience them, but today’s crucial times revealed that I am not immune to them. Over the past months, my response has been to surrender and be still. I do not fight such feelings. I accept my doubt, uncertainty about the future, and social conflict anxiety, by acknowledging it and riding the wave-like nature does, until it passes.
During this period, I rarely watch television, and dare not to take in regular news. I stay to myself, and pray and meditate with vigor. I learned to deal with these tough seasons in this way through spiritual principles learned both from the bible and from The Seven Spiritual Laws.
Now I am prepared to explain the Spiritual Law of Giving and Receiving. I have written about it in the past, but vowed to reinterpret all of the spiritual laws this year. This is about the third of the seven laws that I’ve covered so far. I will forever share the wisdom of both the bible and other resonating spiritual works.
I am not a minister obviously, and don’t know the bible very well. I know it’s basic principles, but cannot spit scriptures like the pros. I don’t want to impress that way. My desire is to live the principles, which all boil down to Love and God’s dominion over us all. I don’t find understanding these principles as very complicated to live by as many make it appear.
I share this principle, and others with you because I want you to have the transformative experience that I had, after reading the book.
I feel the truth in the law of Giving and Receiving so strongly because my mother instilled the importance of giving to me as a child, and even more passionately in her final years. My mother and I are very similar in that we’ve helped a lot of people, without expectation. We also have helped people who have not shown us gratitude or even extended thanks. But, we keep on giving, as I have done for most of my life, but especially in the past 10 years.
After my mother transitioned, I looked at videos that I recorded of her, to quell my grieving. The words she spoke saying, “Don’t ask nobody for nothing”, but to help them anyway, still rings in my psyche. Serving as her sole caregiver, while battling my siblings, and loosing practically everything I owned in the process of protecting her, was my exemplification of this principle for her, and God. Before she passed, she told me, “You did good”. Those were her final words. That was the greatest gift I could have ever received.
My mother’s transition and advice motivated me to embody her words and this principle by volunteering my services (Labor, Administrative, Writing, Creative Content, Legal & Business Advice, etc.) to friends, family, strangers, protestors, and nonprofit organizations. I still volunteer today.
Recently I helped various people with a range of services, from applying for healthcare benefits and unemployment insurance, researching medications and alternative protocols, expungement of criminal records, creative content, to anything asked of me, within reason. I regularly volunteer with a very encouraging pastor who helps to move impoverished people, living with HIV. I plan to continue to volunteer for as long as I am able. I receive joy and wisdom when I give of myself to others.
My Mother’s Words
This is a short video containing old footage of my mother giving me advice on helping and giving.
This was my first exposure to Deepak Chopra’s Spiritual Law of Giving & Receiving, through my mother’s hard-knocks wisdom.
My mother drilled helping others to me, Giving. I gave a significant part of my life in her in honor. Deepak taught me about the Receiving part, and that it is just one law, with interdependent parts.
Following this law has served my life well. Kevy
Because of the strong foundation that my mother established, and because of my consistent history of giving, I was sure that if I understood any spiritual law, I surely understood the law of Giving and Receiving. I was shocked to find that, after complimenting my mother’s discernment on giving with Deepak Chopra’s, I misunderstood the law fully, and I had parts of the law wrong.
First of all, I thought that the law of Giving and Receiving was two separate laws. I later learned that it is one law, with two interdepended parts, Giving, and Receiving. I learned that we must do both in order for the law to manifest its beneficial effects.
I thought I had the law down pat because I gave to everyone. I gave my time, talents, and money freely. This is why I don’t have much to show for the millions I’ve made over the years. But I was wrong.
Complimenting my mother’s wisdom with Deepak’s revealed that the law is violated when one simply gives without receiving. It is obvious that it is violated when one just takes, takes, and takes, without ever giving. But it was not as obvious that only giving, and not receiving, is also a violation.
With regard to Receiving, I played a subconscious trick on myself, thinking that is was honorable to refuse offerings. I felt I wanted to show that my giving was from the heart and not for money or gain. I was wrong. I did not realize that by receiving and giving I would keep the cycle of universal abundance flowing. I would keep the exchange going.
Of greater revelation was learning that my ego prevented me from accepting gifts from others. I simply could not humble myself to take from someone else, even if they offered it. I did not realize that by not receiving, my ego was being too proud. My ego kept me on top as the giver, and them lower, as the receiver.
But sometimes I left these charitable situations still feeling used because often I never got a thanks, praise, or even future communications with the very people I helped once my work was done. This disappointed me, but it never stopped me from giving again. I’d just complained once more about people not being grateful each time it repeatedly happened.
This is when I learned that I was giving with expectations. I expected to be praised as smart, kind, and at least thanked. I kind of wanted them to offer me money and gifts for my services just to satisfy my need to be appreciated but to also get the admiration of refusing the gifts, once the offer was at least made. It rarely happened, though. Sick thinking, huh?
I am still working on giving without expectation today, though my expectations are not monetary or material. My expectation is to feel appreciated. Even that kind of thinking must go to put the law into full effect. I am still a work in progress in this area. This is one of my many flaws.
Before I dive deeper into the Law of Giving and Receiving, I would like to summarize my key takeaways from the wisdom given to me by my mother, Deepak, others, and through my own experiences.
Later, read Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, I thoroughly understood how the law really works. Here is the gist:
- As I see life as seasonal, so is the law of Giving and Receiving in a sense. Its two seasons are giving and receiving.
- It is one law with two seasons. It is not two separate laws.
- One works with the other. To Receive you must give. Giving, likewise, motivates us to want to give to others.
- Ego often prevents us from receiving. It plays a trick on us, making us think that it is humble not to accept offerings. This breaks the law. I have broken this law, though I was sure that I had it right since I give so freely
The Spiritual Law of Giving and Receiving
The Law of Giving and Receiving is one of Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws that resonates with me most. It resonated with me so deeply some 20 years ago when I read his book because I thought of all spiritual practices, I surely had this one correct. I freely gave for most of my life. I remember giving gifts to my teacher in the third grade, and to a girl in the neighborhood, Cheryl Neal, just because giving felt good, and the smile that I received in return was priceless.
There could be no possible way that I had this law wrong because I was the type of person who would give the shirt off of my back. In the late 1990s to the early 2000’s, during the Y2K scam, I came into vast amounts of money, working as a traveling systems consultant, a road warrior. Since I had little social time, I ‘did it up’ on the weekends.
All of the friends around me seemed to wait for my return anxiously, for they knew that I was a free giver, and I had money. During this period, though I made a few million dollars. I would use my debit card, and had over $ 50 K in only one of my checking accounts! In spite, I didn’t have much to show for it. I paid for others’ international trips, cars, extravagant gifts, concerts, loans, you name it.
I did not really give with expectation. Well, at least I thought I didn’t. I just gave to be nice. I really didn’t need all that money. But in reality, I had this entire law all wrong.
I gave mainly because I wanted others to like me. I wanted my family to love me. So, I kept priming the pump. It got me into trouble, though.
In an effort to prove, ‘that I didn’t forget where I came from’, I supplied and funded what friends desired, so that my weekends were not empty. That would ultimately lead to me being the one to buy the drugs, weed, coke, and alcohol. I was giving, with the intent of gaining acceptance. It destroyed a season in my life until I got wise to the Law of Giving and Receiving. That was over 15 years ago.
Ironically, the same people, including family, who betrayed me or turned their backs on me in the end, when I was either sick or experiencing trials, were the same ones to whom I gave to so generously. That really hurt, and it caused me to go to the other extreme of becoming reclusive, and less trusting for a period. I am still pretty cautious in that regard.
Though I thought I gave without expectation, I was expecting something… acceptance and love. Sometimes, I expected praise or an expression of gratitude for being so generous, but didn’t even receive a thank you.
The exception was with my mother, and with God. I gave to her and God, expecting nothing in return. In both cases, I felt as though I had already received their blessings and that I was actually repaying them. I guess that’s why in these scenarios, I received so much more in return, mainly wisdom and knowledge, and this minor thing call transformation.
The biggest part of my thinking about the Law of Giving and Receiving that I had incorrect, was believing that Giving and Receiving are separate acts. They are not separate, and the law only works if you do both. I gave freely, but, I thought it was kind to not receive, gracious even. But I was breaking this law, and stunting my flow. I didn’t realize this like most people probably don’t.
In one of the articles below, it refers to Giving and Receiving as depending on each other. They are both seasons, within the same flow of spiritual energy. I find this to be true. So, I knew that I had to humble myself to receive, while still generously giving.
The post went further to state that there is no receiving, only giving, for when one gives to another, the receiver gives a proper place or use for the gift given. Both parties are actually giving. That’s an interesting way to look at it.
When I gave service to my mother as her sole caregiver, I did it right. By that time I was quite familiar with the law. I gave everything to her or up for her, without expectation: money, investments, business, credit, reputation, health, and peace of mind (battling my siblings), and I did not worry about the consequences. And, I received royally, gaining discernment on every virtue that I believe God admires.
In return, I was spiritually transformed, bestowed with priceless gifts.
Today, I keep Giving and Receiving united, practicing the law as I believe God desires. But I still recognize those who are like I once was or worse off. Most people are Givers or Takers, but not both. Either can be disappointing.
So, what I now do, is take personalities out of the picture. Whoever I give to, I regard it as giving to God, giving to the universe, or as making a Karmic Deposit.
I see our deeds as either deposits or withdrawals from a Karmic or Spiritual bank. I try to make deposits into this figurative bank account every day. I rarely make withdrawals, but I am paid dividends and interests unexpectedly, usually when I need it most. God is the comptroller of the Karmic Bank and decides when I Receive blessings.
I don’t give with expectation of any specific gift in return anymore. I know that in doing so, I am in tune with all of the universe. I am part of the same exchange that nature participates in, as with the different cycles of weather, seasons, day and night, and all things that God has created.
Therefore, outside of the individuals or personalities involved in this exchange, I focus on what I Give and Receive from God and the universe, and know that according to law, it will be returned to me, ‘blessed and multiplied’.
Here are three simple points on the Law of Giving and Receiving that I have learned well.
- If you give, you must humble yourself to receive.
- You cannot take, take, take, without regard to giving. If you do, your life’s mission will be to continually find the next person to take from. You will never receive unexpected blessings from the bank that one receives by giving in proportion to receiving.
- You cannot just give, without receiving. If you do, you will find yourself always feeling used and unappreciated. You will give, again and again, just to get the subconscious joy of complaining about how much you gave, without ever being appreciated. You too will never receive unexpected blessing from the bank, proportional to your giving.
“Here are helpful articles and videos that dive deeper into this subject.” – Kevy
- The universe is in a constant state of exchange and flow
- Giving and Receiving works within this constant state of exchange.
- They depend on the outward flow of each other.
- Giving and Receiving are actually contrasting aspects of the same energy flow.
- One should not be separated from the other.
- There are 3 types of givers
- Ask yourself, why I give to others to find out your type.
- Always ask yourself, what I can give to others. Then watch carefully what you receive
7 Days 7 Quotes – Giving & Receiving
“Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” – Luke 6:38
“The wicked borrows but does not pay back, but the righteous is generous and gives.” – Psalm 37:21
“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” ― Mother Teresa
“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” ― Charles Dickens
“For it is in giving that we receive.” ― St. Francis of Assisi
“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ― Anne Frank
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” ― Lao Tzu
- Like the symbol for infinity, giving and receiving are actually one thing with polarized or dualistic aspects. When you look at the symbol for infinity and imagine energy flowing through it from one side to the other and back again, which side can you say is the giver? Which side is the receiver?
- The answer is – they both are!
- Giving cannot occur without a receiver. Receiving, therefore, is actually an act of giving. Receiving gives the act of giving someplace to go.
- In truth, only giving exists. In the physical Universe, where we experience the illusion of separation, it appears that one person can give an object, such as money, and receive something in exchange, such as clothing or food.
- If you examine this “exchange” closely, you will notice that the only action that occurs is giving. One gives money, and the other gives the money someplace to go. The other gives food or clothing, and the other gives the food and clothes someplace to go.
- The need for exchange is created by the mind which believes the illusion of separation.
“There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and [there is] that withholdeth more than is meet, but [it tendeth] to poverty. The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.” – Proverbs 11:24 – 11:25
“Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth [it] not, to him it is sin.” – James 4:17
He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must do as he has made up his mind, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance so that you may always have enough of everything and may provide in abundance for every good work. As it is written, He scatters abroad, he gives to the poor; his righteousness endures forever. He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your resources and increase the harvest of your righteousness. You will be enriched in every way for great generosity. – 2 Corinthians 9.6-11
“Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, [so let him give]; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.” – 2 Corinthians 9:7
Giving & Receiving Verses from Virtually Every Faith – World Scripture – GIVING AND RECEIVING – Unification.Net
Passages in this section express the general spiritual principle of giving and receiving. When we give to one another, freely and without conditions, sharing our blessings with others and bearing each other’s burdens, the giving multiplies, and we receive far more than what was given. Even when there is no immediate prospect of return, Heaven keeps accounts of giving, and in the end blessing will return to the giver, multiplied many fold. We must give first; to expect to receive without having given is to violate the universal law. On the other hand, giving in order to receive–with strings attached, with the intention of currying favor, or in order to make a name for oneself–is condemned. See also The Golden Rule, pp. 172-74.
Give not with the thought to gain, and be patient unto thy Lord. – Islam. Qur’an 74.6-7
“Those who act kindly in this world will have kindness.” – Islam. Qur’an 39.10
“One must pour cold water on the ground before he can tread on soft soil.” – African Traditional Religions. – Yoruba Proverb (Nigeria)
Love cannot return unless you give it. People who love each other can continue the give and take action of love with more power than they invest. We can conclude that the word “eternity” can only be formed through love. – Unification Church. Sun Myung Moon, 12-5-71
When a greeting is offered you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous, or at least of equal courtesy. God takes careful account of all things. – Islam. Qur’an 4.86
If I give this, what shall I [have left to] enjoy?”– Such selfish thinking is the way of the ghosts; “If I enjoy this, what shall I [have left to] give?”– Such selfless thinking is a quality of the gods. – Buddhism. Shantideva, Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life 8.125
“Giving simply because it is right to give, without thought of return, at a proper time, in proper circumstances, and to a worthy person, is enlightened giving. Giving with regrets or in the expectation of receiving some favor or of getting something in return, is selfish giving.” – Hinduism. – Bhagavad Gita 17.20-21
“There was presented to me a plum,
And I returned for it a beautiful kew stone;
Not as a return for it, But that our friendship might be lasting.” – Confucianism. Book of Songs, Ode 64
“Those who do not abandon mercy will not be abandoned by me.” – Shinto. Oracle of the Kami of Itsukushima
“He who gives liberally goes straight to the gods; on the high ridge of heaven he stands exalted.” – Hinduism. Rig Veda 1.125.5
“Those who act kindly in this world will have kindness.” – Islam. Qur’an 39.10
“Understand that through saving others you shall also be saved.” – Tenrikyo. Ofudesaki 3.47
“One must pour cold water on the ground before he can tread on soft soil. – African Traditional Religions.” – Yoruba Proverb (Nigeria)
“You will not attain piety until you expend of what you love; and whatever thing you expend, God knows of it.” – Islam. Qur’an 3.92
“If beings knew, as I know, the fruit of sharing gifts, they would not enjoy their use without sharing them, nor would the taint of stinginess obsess the heart and stay there. Even if it were their last bit, their last morsel of food, they would not enjoy its use without sharing it, if there were anyone to receive it.” – Buddhism. Itivuttaka 18
“I first began to understand the Law of Giving and receiving, after reading Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Laws of Spiritual Success. I have read this less than a 100-page book and continually work to abide by these spiritual laws of the universe, or of God.
I have passed copies of this book to many people in many countries.” In my opinion, this law is one of the most important of the seven laws. I will discuss the remaining spiritual laws in future posts.” – Kevy
The law of Giving and Receiving by Deepak Chopra – 296 views – Bilal Arif – Published on Jul 5, 2016
The Laws of Giving & Receiving – The Power of The Seed – David D. Ireland, Ph.D. – 18,958 views – Christ Church – Published on Dec 12, 2013
This is a highlight moment from the sermon “The Power of The Seed” by David D. Ireland, Ph.D.
GIVING IS RECEIVING – 593 views – ishare programme – Published on Sep 9, 2014
“This video uses an analogy of giving and receiving that I used for years. I see giving and receiving as making deposits and withdrawals from a Karmic bank. We build up our balance, and eventually received interest and dividends.” – Kevy
Understanding the concept of sharing.
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Friends – Joey giving and receiving!! – 254,788 views – katezzzz – Published on Oct 12, 2011
“Here’s a little humor on the subject!” – Kevy
My favorite Joey!!! Just hilarious!!!!
By Kevy Michaels
I could give you a new car
But eventually it will break down
I could adorn you like royalty
But the stones may fall from your crown
I could give you a cute puppy
But he may have to be put to sleep
What about a flat-screen TV?
Nowadays I can get ‘em cheap
I’d rather give the most valuable gift
That I could ever give to you
You will never have to fix it
It’ll always shine and remain like new
It will forever be with you
…Even after I’m gone
Anybody can give those other things
What I’m offer you, though, I offer alone
Even if I gave you a bunch of money
You and the money will surely part
So I’ll give a gift that will never leave you
The energy of Love
That’s coming straight from
Question: What have you learned about the Law of Giving and Receiving? Please share your comments. Kevy
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