This post was a lot of fun, for me. It digs into the controversy of why Whites are annoyed by Blacks and vice versa.
Most people avoid discussing such touchy topics; I live for those discussions. I tend to gravitate to most things that ‘normal people’ avoid, even Black people. It’s because I’m a wise and knowledgeable man that knows that the root of most problems, especially systemic ones, lies in the touchy areas that we avoid. …the areas that strike nerves. I aim to strike nerves with this post, and provide a prelude to you to better understanding issues and planning your strategy for resolving them.
Many Whites are also annoyed by my discussions and views, as evidenced by several White former friends who ‘drop-kicked’ me because I expressed pure emotions on racial discrimination. I have others who subtly avoid me because they fear I may talk about racism. They make nice as though I don’t realize that they are skating around all the while.
In preparing this post about things that annoy White people about Blacks, and vice versa, as I always do, I will give you plenty of my opinions, but I will also provide the opinion of others. You are encouraged (as always) to discuss touchy topics like these. Don’t be like former friends who avoided discussing racism to the extent of ending friendships. If we are ever going to make significant progress, we must deal directly with any pressing humanitarian issues, especially with racism. …Okay Boomers, do you understand? I’m one too.
I’ve had enough of the superficial bullshit of pretending to resolve racial issues, but being overly careful to be politically correct. And, I won’t tolerate it for the good of humanity. That is total smoke and mirrors.
I have participated in these types of discussions in workshops and seminars and most participants psych themselves into believing that they did something significant, but they respectively go back to their monolithic White, Black, and Mixed race worlds, and not changing a fuckin thing!
We are not in times today whereby we can be so indifferent. I say once again, we are in crucial times and we must act more like it is! What was may no longer be in the future. How we relate to each other will have to change! The tail may very well become the head, and the head the tail. We just don’t know what we don’t know.
But “I” do know that nothing changes if nothing changes. We all must change.
‘And the Lord shall make thee the head, and not the tail; and thou shalt be above only, and thou shalt not be beneath; if that thou hearken unto the commandments of the Lord thy God, which I command thee this day, to observe and to do them’ – Deuteronomy 28:13
We must begin to dissect the real meaning of the issues or we will end up dissecting each other more cruelly. We can only pretend with each other, and ourselves for so long. I only pretend when I am visioning through meditation, prayer, and planning. I am on da real when it comes to addressing bullshit, and what makes it so damn stinky.
In this post, I begin to stir the shit, and it may stink. But this is a road we must travel, in these crucial times. Kevy
I see every second of my life as a journey. I metaphorically see myself taking steps with each thought, encounter, and situation. This is why I often refer to my life as Life’s Road or Life’s Seasons.
A thought of gratitude in the morning is a step. Helping someone is a step. Taking care of my Body, Mind & Spirit is a step. Being betrayed and hurt are steps.
The point is that I process every event in my life through a metaphysical spiritual lens, using a lot of introspective metaphors and analogies. I am reflective of the most minute things. Many people don’t see things that blare out to me. I transition to this discussion to explain what motivates this post.
I used to keep a list of future blog topics. I still have the list. It has become rather long. I rarely refer to it though. Instead, I allow life’s daily journey to inspire my content. In a sense, I do as preachers do, relating posts to events that occur in my life, as they do with their sermons.
I recently experienced a misinterpretation of Black culture. I have experienced this same misinterpretation many times before in Denver, Colorado. It doesn’t upset me. I am beyond that vibration.
The experiences, rather, provide this opportunity to discuss, explore, and educate others on cultural differences, and annoyances.
Yesterday I had an epiphany during the most unexpected circumstances. Epiphanies usually come to me in this manner. I realized that a part of racial tension can be resolved by Whites better understanding the Black culture. It inspired this post.
As I played my music (in this case it was not loud), immersed in gratitude and joy, I noticed educational opportunities in how my music playing annoyed the people around me. I played it without anger or disrespect, but it seemed annoying to White people around me. I did not understand why they were so annoyed. I played Stevie Wonder, Aretha Franklin, and other old classics, as I was overjoyed in living. They were not happy campers about it though.
In Denver, I ride in my car playing music, with the windows down all the time. I listen to music throughout each day no matter where I am. I am listening to gospel music while writing this post. I see my life as a journey and a story. It requires theme music to accompany every scene, mood, and emotion that I experience.
But I noticed that when I am at stoplights, White people generally roll up their windows when they approach my car. They do it like clockwork! Many times my windows are rolled down, but I am listening to NPR news or nothing at all. They still habitually roll their windows up as they approach my car! This has been prior to coronavirus. Now that annoys me! It makes me want to play my music even louder, with direct and subliminal message songs blaring at them. I see their annoyance as White Privilege. They see me as Loud & Common, as Black People are perceived by many.
The opportunity lies in Whites understanding why some Black People, like me, appear to be so Loud & Common.
The responsibility is on Blacks, like me, to engage in conversations to educate them even if they may become offended. They will not start these conversations, I know. The onus is on us. Their being offended may be their first response. Hopefully, their second response will be to gain a greater understanding and appreciation for our actions, while calibrating their own.
Perhaps next time that they find us Loud & Common, they may not be annoyed or may not roll up their windows, exerting White Privilege. Maybe, just maybe, Blacks, in turn, will stop being so damn loud.
I examined my reasons for being Loud & Common and listed them below.
I provide this for Whites, Blacks, and all annoyed people to understand. I include other races because they too get annoyed when I go against the grain. I say, fuck the grain.
These are crucial times, son. Ain’t nobody got no time for not being direct, factual, and bodacious about oppression, inhumanity, hypocrisy, and hate. Soft gentle approaches are for a later stage, after passionate resistance garners real progress, as the revolutionary protests and marches have shown.
I will also provide why other Black people are so Loud & Common in articles and videos below. Here I why I am Loud & Common.
Kevy’s 10 Reasons For Being Loud & Common
- Joy: I am joyous and celebrate joy with music. I have survived near-death and other seemingly insurmountable trials. I am overwhelmed with gratitude.
- Mood: I generally require music to enhance, elevate, or regulate the many emotions and moods I experience as a Black man in America. Believe me, there is a plethora of feelings and thoughts that I experience.
- African Culture/Black Culture: I am African, though American. African ancestral drumbeats run through my veins; its beats are a metronome in my heart. Music, and loud music, is a part of my culture.
- Black Privilege: What I and my people have experienced for hundreds of years gives me the Black privilege of doing what da fuck I want until inequities are bullshit-free and resolved. I feel this way sometimes, especially when The Lobster speaks.
- To Intentionally Annoy: Because while White people are annoyed about me being loud, they are not giving fucks about the condition of Black people.
- To Be Noticed: Most times it seems the only way to not be invisible in a White world is to cause a commotion. I get loud somethings to be noticed and respected or at least heard. I make my presence emphatically clear with the weapon of sound.
- Feeling The Spirit: A lot of times I am feeling the holy spirit and am only concerned about The Lord at the moment. I get caught up.
- Because of ‘Their’ Audacity!: The nerve of them to be annoyed. Blacks are not living in a world so normal, where being loud is a serious pressing issue that must be contained! Whites do live in this world, though. Our pressing issues go much deeper and involve fundamental human inequities.
- Pain: My spirit hurts sometimes. I am broken emotionally from racism and don’t care who doesn’t like it. I am lashing out.
- They Do It And Get Away With It – We Get The Charge: White people play loud music. They may have started the trend with Heavy Metal, Punk, etc. Look at the list below.
The Loudest Bands In History: 10 Ear-Splitting Acts – October 25, 2019 – Discover Music – Martin Chilton
Here’s our guide to the musicians who have broken down the sound barriers to be rightfully hailed as the loudest bands in history. Read More
- Bob Dylan And The Hawks (1966)
- Led Zeppelin (1969)
- Deep Purple (1972)
- The Who (1976)
- Manowar (1984)
- Motörhead (1986)
- Leftfield (1996)
- KISS (2009)
- Foo Fighters (2011)
- AC/DC (2015)
I’m a black doctor. My neighbors called the cops on me for listening to Biggie – The Washington Post – Mary Branch – May 28, 2018
Who could that be? I wondered. It was such an aggressive knock — definitely not friendly — that I froze. I finally stood up and walked to the door. I opened it with purpose, ready to confront the person on the other side.
He said: “Your neighbors called the police for a disturbance.”
It was 3 p.m. on a Saturday last fall.
An hour before this unexpected visitor, I had been admiring a beautiful sunny day in Chapel Hill, N.C. — finally, a day off from my residency in internal medicine. I’d recently found out not only that I had been accepted to a cardiology fellowship but also that I was pregnant! My husband and I are newlyweds, and this was our dream.
I wanted to celebrate by putting some ’90s pop and hip-hop on the stereo. I started singing and dancing around the apartment. When a song had a lot of bass, I turned down the volume so as not to disturb anyone. I had not played this kind of music in a while. If I play it in the car, I often turn it down or off when driving near my neighbors or where I work. Although I hear other drivers blaring loud rock or country music all the time, I know an African American playing my type of music tends to draw negative attention. Nevertheless, this music was what I needed to embrace the joy I felt. Read More
It’s not enough that a Black Person simply listens to their music. No, Black People have to feel their music; they have to live their music. When a Black Person rolls down the street in their Cadillac Escalade with their low-quality sub-woofers making the ground vibrate and drowning out all other sounds, it is not their intention to annoy you. Black People simply need to feel the music vibrate throughout their entire bodies. Read More
Over the past two years, I’ve watched as black people have been silenced, arrested, and even killed for the noise they make. Black people aren’t more or less loud than anyone else, and yet the noise we make is feared, scrutinized, and made public. Understanding why there’s such a sensitivity — and fear — of black noise is a complex and intricate question that doesn’t supply a simple answer.
“Black noise can easily be dismissed as antagonistic, abrasive, and futile, but it is survival. It forces people to acknowledge black experiences and oppression, and it’s loud even when no one wants to hear it.” Read More
More than two-thirds of black Americans say music helps them feel connected – You Gov – Jamie Ballard – November 13, 2018
35% of black people say the average American isn’t knowledgeable about the influence of African-American culture on modern music Read More
Risha Talks: What do black people do that irritate white people? I got hundreds of responses to that question. – Tulsa World – Risha Grant – Feb 13, 2019
- Work relationships: All black people tend to hang out together.
- Generalizing white people: Black people tend to see white people as monolithic.
- Poor grammar: Black people sound uneducated when they speak.
- White privilege: I don’t like it when black people bring up my ‘white privilege’.
- Educating white people about the black experience: Black people have a tremendous opportunity to help educate white people in a way that could be profound, but they won’t. Read More
Ten Ways White People Can Stop Annoying People Of Color On Social Media – Shannon Barber – May 30, 2017
- When we post about racism stop saying you’re shocked. Don’t say, “I can’t believe this still happens”.
- When we share whatever flavor of racial pain we’re in, don’t proclaim what a good white person you personally are and go on to tell a story about that time you rescued a poor Black child from the ghetto.
- Related to #2. Say you come across a lengthy thread where people of color are going off about how terrible white people are, don’t be the white person to say not all white people. I
- Not all conversations need your stories about something tangentially related.
- If you don’t understand a Black colloquialism or other brown people slang do not start yammering about the demise of the English language and how terrible slang is.
- Related to #5, think about how you use AAVE. Do you use it when you want to feel sassy? If the only use for Blackness you have is to consume it and regurgitate it, skip it. Quote Miley Cyrus or Katy Perry or somebody until Blackness means more to you than two seconds of cachet or sass.
- Don’t ask us why we hate white people. Just don’t. Read More
When black people are in pain, white people just join book clubs – The Washington Post – Tre Johnson – June 11, 2020
I am 10 and watching my grandfather’s back stiffen and shrink as an officer pulls us over on the way home from the mall. I am 16, face down on the hood of a cruiser in Ewing, N.J. I am 22 and sitting in the back of a car at night with my palms pressed against the driver’s seat headrest in an empty lot off a feeder road outside Houston as two officers shine flashlights into our eyes. I am 36 in a Main Line Philadelphia neighborhood, crying in my car when an officer taps my window because someone in a nearby house has called about me. I am 42 and watching the news of George Floyd, the latest racial killing, unspool across TV, and social media. And as I watch, I am 10, 16, 22, 36 all over again, all at once.
This is all to say that when things get real — really murderous, really tragic, really violent or aggressive — my white, liberal, educated friends already know what to do. What they do is read. And talk about their reading. What they do is listen. And talk about how they listened. Read More
Why Are Black And Latino People So Loud? Antonio Jaramillo Explains | Black Hollywood Live – Oct 23, 2016 – Black Hollywood Live
This is just an excerpt from a Madea movie actor who was asked why Blacks & Latinos are so loud. The response is truthful and lighthearted. Kevy
This a humorous take on Black folks being loud as discussed by a Black and White Millennial female. Kevy
Some of ya’ll be way too loud. But ironically, the loudest person on this show isn’t the one you think. In this episode, we discuss the stereotype of black people being loud. It’s gonna get real.
Here is Black Brits’ take on the question about Black people being loud. Kevy
This video is humorous but does use graphic language. It may be offensive to insecure people. Kevy
This video explains why Black people may have a right to be angry. Would you be angry if this was your history? Kevy
This video tells the story of Jordan Davis, a black teenager in Florida who was killed by a white man, Michael Dunn, after an argument over loud music. The slain youth’s father shares his loss.
Syracuse Cops Violently Arrest A Black Man Because They Claim His Music Was Too Loud – Jun 9, 2019 – Roland S. Martin
In Syracuse, Police Officer Chris Buske arrested Shaolin Moore for playing his music too loud.
The passenger in the car was also arrested for videotaping the violent arrest of Moore. According to the Syracuse Police Department, they are reviewing the incident.
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