Less than a month ago, on January 5, 2019, I celebrated my 59th birthday. I celebrated it alone because I chose to. I rarely drink and don’t like bars, so that was out of the question. Every time I drink, usually one drink, I just get cranky and sleepy. And, I can feel even the slightest effect on my body. I just don’t feel balanced the next morning.
I can’t remember how the weather was, but I don’t drive when there is snow or ice on the road. I thought I’d just stay home instead.
Don’t go feeling sorry for me, though. It was by choice and by the circumstance that I was alone on my birthday. I just don’t vibrate the way I used to. In the past, I would have partied hardy.
But in a spur of the moment, I treated myself to a Mexican feast. I didn’t have to drive far because the restaurant is located virtually across the street. When the staff got word that it was my birthday, they sent me a Margarita and a shot of tequila. I ate well and drank both drinks. I left joyful and tipsy. It was a great night, nonetheless!
All week I had a burning desire to write about Respect and had planned to do it that night. But by the time I got home, at about 8 pm, I could not write. My head was not there. It was a very funny thought of me even trying to because lately, I have been dictating my posts through a new Blue microphone that I recently purchased for video audio narrating, and maybe later for podcasts.
The way that I felt that night, this story would have come out all wrong. The AI in Microsoft Word’s dictation functionality was not developed for slurred speech. So, I put this post on the shelf.
Then before I knew it, about a month flew by. I was inundated with tasks related to school scholarships, writing, attending workshops, copyediting, and feeling deeper that I needed a change in my life. I felt that a major change was to occur in 2019. I didn’t think hard enough to know exactly how, but I knew that it would. I still don’t know how.
So, today, nearly a month after ‘feeling in my spirit’ the desire to write this post, I will share with you my sentiments on Respect. This is a 7-Days-7+Quotes post, therefore I have hand-selected quotes to drive the message. I will throw in a few memes in too.
I love writing organically. I write what I feel moved to write when I want to. I apologize if this is annoying, but the alternative would be less authentic.
I do research every topic, but only after my heart tells me to write on its chosen topic will I. I have been feeling this message of Respect all week and hope by sharing it, it resonates with at least one person. That way I will get validation through your comments, and share wisdom at the same time.
“I can still love the memories of those who have been left behind. We were at the same vibrational level back then and were in bliss. But our energies have grown apart. Their mission is different than mine. They’re having a different experience. It is all good and still is joyful, but only in memory.” Kevy Michaels
I was inspired by memes to write this post. I will explain what each means to me below.
The first point that I would like to make is that we are the ones who teach people how to respect us by what we allow.
I can quickly come up with a list of about seven people who I had to cut a loose in the past 3 years. Most of these relationships ended over me finally concluding that they were disrespectful towards me and I did not deserve the lack of quality of love and vibration that they offered.
You see it is because I am being transformed before everyone’s eyes and becoming more spiritually aware that I run into tensions. It is challenging to handle a friend or family member changing right before your eyes when the old you was the glue that held your relationship together.
Because I acknowledged how I was changing before their eyes, I tended not to place my standard on those with whom I tried to maintain friendships. I feared that I was too weird for those friends, and therefore didn’t reveal the depths of the spiritual side of myself. As a result, I catered to their ways, habits, and lifestyles, perhaps a bit too much at times. I learned not to judge them, though I wanted to, and most importantly, I did not get upset when engaging in topics and things that did not resonate with me.
But with none of these friends did I ever really feel spiritually connected, and the distance was getting greater by the day. Many times I sat quietly observing behavior that they displayed that I felt wasn’t spiritual at all. Other times I took joking insults that they directed towards me. Often, I would laugh it off, self-deprecating. But I was often too sensitive to not be hurt, but only secretly.
This went on for years, and one by one, I eliminated these friends, usually ‘going off’ reading them their history juxtaposed with my honesty. Slowly, I was becoming more alone, but at the same time, I was meditating, praying and caring for myself more intensively. I would pray every day for The Lord to reveal to me what was my purpose.
Now, it is being slowly revealed to me. What I do know is that it is not by coincidence that I spend so much time alone today. For years I have been like the nerd desperately trying to be accepted by the cool guys. Even after gaining acceptance, ultimately, I would realize that the relationships were too low-vibe for where I was, and intended to go. It is also not a coincidence that my relationships usually don’t work out, oh yeah, I am too hard to take, as I have been told.
I’ve concluded that my purpose requires that I remain in the purest of energy at this time. It won’t allow even the slightest ripple. No matter how many times I try to fit in with others unlike me, it will never work. …at this time… Certainly not as long as I am simultaneously asking The Lord to reveal my purpose.
Today, I am receptive to this revelation.
I am more peaceful and tranquil than I’ve ever been in my life. Creative ideas are popping in my mind like microwave popcorn, sporadically in seconds. I am visualizing brilliant film, book, and podcast ideas. I am bursting with determination, and eagerness to take my digital ministry to the next level. I have accepted that I will need to rid myself of distractions if I am to manifest my dreams. I’ve accepted that I have to rid myself of distractions and negativity. Those who disrespected me were obviously the first that had to go. Now, they are gone. I am on my own, but I am brave for I have a strong faith and a big imagination.
The Lord afforded me this blessing because I asked. I have been asking for it for over ten years now. The Lord has been intentionally clearing my path so that I may experience uncanny concentration. At first, I thought it was punishment. But the path was being cleared so that I may connect with new creative high-vibrating spirits. Maybe we will collaborate. I have a vision of a network of creative truth-seeking artists and communicators. Again, as I’ve expressed, I have a big imagination.
I am more receptive and open to the blessings to come than I have ever been! I am having this experience without any negative influences. I am choosing to no longer intentionally allow others to disrespect me. I never disrespected them!
Thank you, Lord, for cleansing my relationships! I could not have accomplished so quickly in 50 years.
I will give you a brief break with the memes below on Respect, then I will come back to make other points and quotes about respect.
“I could try to convert my friends and family to where I am, but I would talk myself until I am blue in the face, and still would make no progress.” “Why would I want to do that?” Kevy Michaels
Annoying Traits of Spiritual Awareness
Here are some characteristics that I have identified that have surfaced as a result of my new-found awareness and purpose.
I believe that these aspects of my being are the very traits that annoy those from whom I have grown apart. These traits are what I believe motivates them to be disrespectful towards me.
- I am more confident, courageous, and ambitious. I am vocal about it.
- I remain at peace in what appears to others as storms. I am receptive to trials for I accept that they will reveal me to me, and I will grow through the process.
- I am more opinionated. I still remain respectful of differing opinions, but will not concede to that which I do not believe.
- I take others for their word and hold them to it. I am more mindful and expecting of honesty, truth, and trust.
- I am more expressive of my opinion about current events, politics, and life experiences that conflict with my spirit. I don’t accept heartless shallow opinions.
- I very vividly see these times as more crucial with little tolerance for foolishness, dishonesty, and disrespect. I have no time to waste.
- I am not bashful about expressing who I am and my love for myself. I feel royal even though not materially or financially.
Where Disrespect Has Surfaced Most Often
Here are some of the scenarios where disrespect has reared its ugly head in my life.
- Long-term Friendships: Long-term relationships have been a very common disrespectful scenario in my life. I believe that the reason is that best and good friends do not accept that I have changed. Often, they ridicule and joke about who I was years ago and refuse to accept that I am different. In most cases, they are the same as they were years ago.
- Religion Differences: There are those who are very religious, but by my standards are not very spiritual. They disrespect by trying to ‘out spirituality’ me. They usually try to do it by spiting bible verse that they don’t embody. And, I’m not having it. Though subtle, I let them know, usually through my posts and writings.
- Marginalized Materially: In these cases, it is the marginalization of my materialism, compared to friends and family’s newfound material elevation, that makes them feel they have the authority to disrespect me. After all, they are ‘worthier’.
- Emotional Needing Love: When I am needing pure love and comfort and they don’t offer it because they do not know how to offer the kind of love I require. In this case, they often make promises to be there for me that they don’t keep. They disrespect me by telling me anything, blowing me off.
- Jealousy: In some relationships jealously has existed for years. This is another situation where I have been the brunt of joking insults, often in front of others when my light glowing. This type of disrespect is fueled by a silent kind of envy.
- Needing An Upper Hand: This scenario involves people how must have ‘one-up’ on me in everything I accomplish or plan to do. They will do it before me or do something as to outdo me. They can’t respect me because they are competing against me.
- Intimidated By My Knowledge & Experiences: I have traveled the world, made had a business, nice things, and have worked in the largest corporations in the world. I apologize, but many friends and family have not accomplished what I have, haven’t been where I’ve been, including in the low places. Though I don’t flaunt it, I may come off to them that way. In conversations, my experiences give me greater insight and knowledgeable in a variety of areas. They disrespect me by chopping me down because they are intimidated by me.
- Dreaming Too Big: When I enthusiastically proclaim huge dreams to folks and they quickly shoot my shit down simply because they can’t dream as big, or just don’t have the confidence that I have. They are usually not encouraging but rather come up with deflating comments, or try to downsize my dreams as though I’m being excessive.
- Seeing It Happen: I used to have an annual New Year’s Eve circle with close friends and found that each year I accomplished what I set out to accomplish the prior year. Their ambitions for the new year lacked passion, not to mention that they never achieved them. Then, to rub salt in wounds, I had to repeatedly accomplish from vision- to-reality right before their eyes. This caused resentments which were understood but never discussed.
7 Days & 7+ Quotes on Respect
“Respect commands itself and it can neither be given nor withheld when it is due.” – Eldridge Cleaver
“Tolerance implies a respect for another person, not because he is wrong or even because he is right, but because he is human.” – John Cogley
“A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.” – Anonymous
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.” – Anonymous
“Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Respect is earned, not given.” – Hussein Nishah
“Respect should be the first thing you give.” – Anonymous
“If I must tell you how to respect me, our chances of having a spiritual connection has already been defeated.” – Kevy Michaels
“Respect starts with yourself.” Anonymous
“Don’t lower your standards for anyone or anything. Self-respect is everything.” – Anonymous
“When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others.” – Dalai Lama
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” – Anonymous
“Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.” – Roy T. Bennett
Respect everyone, love other believers, honor God, and respect the Emperor.” – (1 Peter 2:17)
In all things you yourself must be an example of good behavior. Be sincere and serious in your teaching.” – (Titus 2:7)
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett
”Love one another warmly as Christians, and be eager to show respect for one another.” – (Romans 12:10)
“Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.” – (Ephesians 5:21)
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Where has it gone? – Aug. 2, 2010 – TODAY Books
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A front-row seat
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